We are building a new world together

It seems to me that a lot of the resentment around "political correctness" (whether vocally expressed on the right, or secretly felt by liberals and the left) is a resistance to what feels like a compulsory program of reconsidering and changing our speech, action, and how society is structured.

I do think that some of the ways that (well-meaning) people seeking social change frame the issue plays into that belief.

The fact is, though, that what is happening is that we are being invited to participate in creating a new world, one that is less racist, ableist, transphobic, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, classist, and so on. The key is to focus less on what you "can't" do and say, and more on the many new ways we can learn to communicate and behave. After all, why be content with merely acting out our unexamined oppressive attitudes (whether from the point of view of the group that "benefits" or because of internalized racism etc.)?

Take joy and pride in this creative endeavor, and don't be so afraid of making mistakes! Also, point out and be compassionate about the mistakes of others. If someone points out your mistake in a harsh way, figure out what you can learn anyway! Nobody tries to make someone else feel bad without feeling bad themselves.
We will not change the world for the better through guilt and shame, but by reminding each other of our better selves.